Take a minute and imagine having your very own Postpartum Doula for a day.
You are meant to be a mom. There are often times as a new mom that leave you feeling like you were not meant to do this. It is too hard. Your body is sore, you need your sleep, and you just don’t know how you are going to get through the day. Every time you try to use the bathroom, sit down to eat, or rest on the edge of your bed for a moment, the baby starts screaming. It’s almost like they have a sixth sense or something. We promise you, you can do it. What you may need though is the right tools to help things run a bit more smoothly. Your attitude & perception of this parenting journey can be much more positive by having someone you know and trust walk through the early days and weeks providing guidance, assurance, expertise and support.
The postpartum period is often called “the fourth trimester” and having a doula come to help during this time is valuable in more ways than you may realize. Your postpartum doula is there to help navigate this wonderful experience through all of the highs and lows that come with parenthood. She is there to help you figure out how you can shower, make meals, keep up with laundry, and take care of yourself, all while also taking care of your beautiful newborn & the rest of your family. Your doula is there to provide the opportunity for you to catch up on sleep without the guilt of feeling that you’re letting important things fall behind in the process.
With a newborn, there’s a good chance you and your baby have been up the majority of the night. There is also a darn good chance you’ve only had 3 hours total of sleep, and it was probably in 30-45 minute increments. As you greet the day once again, with little sleep under your belt, you may begin to wonder if you’ll ever be able to get a shower or a much-needed nap. Stack many sleepless nights like that in a row, and you may find being a new mom extra challenging. It takes time to adjust while you recover and figure out life’s new routine. In fact, forget even finding a routine in that state of mind, you’re just wondering if the engorgement in your breasts will ever subside. Navigating through the normal daily challenges that come in those first weeks & months is what your postpartum doula is there for.
So what is it like to have a postpartum doula? Postpartum doulas are not nannies or babysitters. They are there to support YOU as the new mom in all that you need. Maybe you just need a simple recharge that looks like a nice hot cup of coffee and a warm breakfast. We know the value of these and many other little resetting experiences. You deserve to be able to take a breath and have someone nearby who can reassure you that the way you feel is normal and won’t last forever. A postpartum doula can arrive in the morning, make you a cup of coffee, & cook breakfast while you nurse or feed your baby. She then provides you the opportunity to enjoy your breakfast while it’s still hot while she burps & changes your baby’s diaper and then folds the pile of baby laundry that’s been sitting on the couch for the last 3 days. Sometimes just the ability to take a nice deep breath in the morning is exactly what you need to make the day successful.
Your postpartum doula genuinely cares about you and your family. She listens and offer encouragement through the struggles & tears. She’s there to celebrate and share in the joys and parenting wins you experience. She fiercely believes that you are the very best parent for your baby. She helps answer those non-stop questions that are constantly running through your head. How do you find the right bottle? What is the best baby carrier? How often should my baby eat and sleep? Never will she judge decisions or choices you choose to make. She will encourage you to be the mom you want to be as you navigate through and decide on your parenting philosphy. There is not one right way. There is your way, and that is what we think is the right way and what we choose to support.
Here’s just a glimpse into what a day with your postpartum doula can look like:
You are exhausted, but you know your doula will arrive soon. When she gets here for her shift she:
- Greets you with a smile
- Listens as you tell her all about the night you had
- Takes the baby so you can go take time to shower and freshen up without worrying about your baby
- Has a hot cup of coffee and a nice warm breakfast made for you at the table to sit down and enjoy
- Has cleaned up the dishes, and the dishwasher has been emptied, and your baby is happy
- Helps with the laundry that has been piling up for days because you just don’t have the time or energy
- Changes the baby’s diaper when needed so you can continue to rest
- Helps to prepare a snack for you
- Lets you take a much-needed nap while taking care of the baby
- Provides suggestions for you with any breastfeeding or bottle-feeding problems that you’re experiencing
- She helps you figure out how to use the baby carrier
- Has prepared you lunch & put dinner in the crockpot while you were snuggling your baby
- Has most importantly, helped you to be able to TAKE CARE OF YOU!
The main job of a doula is to take care of the mom. As moms, we spend so much time caring for others that it’s easy to neglect taking care of ourselves so that we can be the best moms we are called to be. A doula is there for you in the transitional postpartum period to allow you the support you need to gain confidence in knowing that you are not alone, that you are an amazing mom and that you can do this!