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3 WAYS NEW PARENTS CAN BOND THROUGH RITUAL CONNECTEDNESS

Nothing shakes things up in a relationship like bringing home your first baby.

Everything changes the day you become parents. Each partner experiences a drastic shift in needs, goals, time, and priorities as they go from couple to family. It can be challenging to maintain your unique connection when two becomes three.

Communication is the Key to a Lasting Bond

Rituals include everyday traditions, special occasions, and celebrations that shape who we are as families, create connection, and strengthen bonds. These important practices give you and your partner something to hold onto as you shift into your life as parents.

Regular and intentional time to talk as a couple is an important ritual you can create to improve communication and strengthen your bond. Taking just 20 minutes each day to focus on each other, talk about the day, ask meaningful questions, and truly listen when the other speaks can evolve into a deeply meaningful relationship, full of trust and intimacy.

Keep Your Love Maps Up-to-Date

Love Maps is a concept termed by Dr. John Gottman. He has found that couples who have healthy, strong relationships have developed detailed “maps” of their partner’s inner self. This is something most couples do well when they are first dating, spending hours on the phone, talking over coffee, and long walks on the beach. Each partner gathers information about the other person’s goals, preferences, worries, stresses, and joys. Love Maps detail how well you know your partner. Over time, these maps change and evolve. Babies, careers, and busy lives make it more challenging to keep your Love Maps up-to-date.

Through rituals of connectedness, like taking 20 minutes each day to talk alone, you can reinforce and redefine your Love Maps. Meaningful but simple questions followed by uninterrupted and active listening will help you move through life together in a positive way.

You can try asking things like:

What is your favorite way to relax?

What flavor of ice cream do you like best?

What song makes you think about our relationship?

At first, this practice may feel awkward. You may be disappointed in yourself and your partner for losing touch with each other. You may feel like you should know these things and it might be uncomfortable to admit that you don’t. Try working from a list of ‘getting to know you’ questions to take the pressure off.

Handle Conflict Positively

Sleep deprivation and the drastic life changes that come with having a baby make it easier to lose your cool with your partner. Harsh words and blame flow more freely when we are worn out and fed

up, but instead of leading to resolution, attacking your partner is more likely to cause a defensive reaction.

Try your best to address your frustrations before they become unbearable. Use “I” statements and stay away from words like “always” and “never”. Be sure to stick to the present problem and jumping back to things that have happened in the past. By talking about your feelings calmly and respectfully, and telling your partner what you need from them, you can move to resolution faster and without damaging the intimacy between you.

Start Developing Ritual Connectedness Now

Strengthening your relationship can begin at any time. Try scheduling 20 minutes to just talk with your partner each day, work through a list of questions to help you update your Love Maps and be mindful of how you approach conflict. Having a baby can be an opportunity to deepen your bond and develop new rituals for connection, shaping the intimacy between the two of you, and creating a foundation for ritual connectedness as a family in the years to come.

Join us for one of our upcoming Gottman Bringing Baby Home Workshops if you’re looking for a way to grow in your relationship, strengthen the bond as united parents, and fall more in love with one another.

To learn more and to register:

http://coastaldoulas.com/upcoming-events/

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I BLAME IT ON THE DOULA: DADS AND DOULAS

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My husband is an amazing man. He works hard to provide for our family. Showing me he loves me every day, he brings me coffee in bed, reads stories to our children, cooks, and even does his own laundry on occasion. He is a wonderful father, not just to the daughter we created together but also to my other children. They know he loves them fiercely.

It was difficult for him to understand why I wanted to invite a virtual stranger to one of the most intimate events of our life, but he knew better than to argue with me when I had my mind set on something.

I hired a team of doulas while he was away on business. They were like friends and confidants all throughout my pregnancy and they will always have a special place in my heart. He didn’t meet either of them until I was in labor. I called as soon as I was sure things were happening because I wanted support from the very beginning. The doula on call came right away.

When I think back to the day our youngest daughter was born, I can not imagine feeling more connected to my husband or more supported by him, but he swears he owes it all to our doula.

She showed him how to touch me and where I may want to be touched.

When I seemed to be out of my mind, she reassured him all was well and normal.

Our labor doula stayed with me so he could take time out to recharge his batteries, eat without eating in front of me (my doctor didn’t feel that I should eat during labor and I decided this was okay with me), and check on our other children.

When complications arose, she helped us gather the information we needed to make the right decisions for us.

Experienced, our doula had attended many births at the hospital we were at. She knew where the warm blankets were and the fastest way to the kitchen for water and ice chips. She had positive professional relationships with the hospital staff and was even able to assist the nurses

and doctor (at their request) when they needed an extra hand. These were things a partner might normally be asked to do but because we had a doula, he remained focused on me completely.

Our doula’s gentle suggestions and reminders kept me in good spirits, my bladder empty, and my body hydrated.

She took the only photos we have of the day our daughter was born, perfectly capturing us both as we met the person our love had created.

I fell so much deeper in love with him that day. He gave me all of him. I will never forget looking deep into his eyes during the really hard parts and feeling like I could reach out and touch the love between us.

My memories of that day have gotten us through some tough times over the years.

He was able to give his all to me because of the reassurance our doula gave him, the breaks he was able to get to care for himself, and confidence he had with her guidance and encouragement.

Our daughter is 4 now but when I bring up the incredible support he provided that day, he squirms a bit, gets a little gleam in his eye, and says “I blame it on the doula.”

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PLANNING FOR THE FOURTH TRIMESTER

Crying over everything and nothing, leaking breasts that feel like they might explode, and a tiny new person who depends on you to meet their every need. Postpartum.

The fourth trimester, a term coined by Dr. Harvey Karp, refers to the first three months after your baby is born. It’s a time of healing, growing, learning, and transition. The beginning of a new life, yours and your baby’s together.

Cultures around the world have traditional practices that guide the way mother and baby are cared for during this time, but in North America, we are just starting to understand the need for postpartum practices and traditions.

Not unlike a birth plan, a postpartum plan will help you navigate your recovery from birth and transition into parenthood. We suggest you start planning for the postpartum period while you are still pregnant. Embrace this time as one that will set the stage for your new life as a parent.

So how do you plan for your fourth trimester?

Explore Cultural Practices From Around the World

Almost every deep-rooted cultural practice for postpartum recovery includes a lying-in period. This is a time when mother and baby rest together and are nurtured by others while they focus on bonding and rest. This time of rest ranges from one month to 100 days, depending on the culture. Lying in may include other traditional practices, health beliefs, taboos, rituals, and prescriptions. For example, in China, postpartum women “sit the month”, called zuo yue zi. They may be cared for by a yuesao, similar to a postpartum doula, who bathes baby, prepares nourishing meals to promote postpartum healing, and incorporates other traditional practices.

How do You Want Your Baby to be Cared for?

Immediate care of your newborn can be covered in your birth plan. How you would like your baby to be cared for beyond their first few hours of life fits into your postpartum plan. Include things like feeding preferences, medications, diapering, vaccinations, skin-to-skin time, and bathing. Not sure what to include?

We can help you ensure you’ve covered everything important to you at our My Postpartum Period workshop.

Set Boundaries with Visitors

Decide ahead of time who you would like to visit you and meet your new baby, both at the hospital and at home. You may want to limit visitors to immediate family for the first

few weeks or even avoid visitors all together while you are learning to breastfeed and getting to know your baby. You do not owe your friends and family time with your baby. Some people even wait to have a baby shower until after their baby is born, allowing them to avoid visitors in the early weeks but giving friends and family a date to look forward to.

Need support when wording your preferences for visitors and requests for support from friends and family? You’ll find information about our My Postpartum Period workshop at the end of this post.

Consider how Household Chores and Meal Preparation will be Managed

The first few weeks after your baby arrives should not be filled with laundry, dishes, and mopping. Will you enlist friends and family to help out, trade baby snuggles for home-cooked meals, rely on your partner to carry the responsibility, or hire a postpartum doula?

You have many options for keeping up with your home while you get the rest you need.

This is Your Postpartum Period

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Don’t Let Go

As I am laying in bed next to my 3-year old so that he will fall asleep I cant help but miss the days when he was an infant and wanted to cuddle with me all of the time. I reflect on how my baby boy isn’t a baby anymore and is growing up. As I start to maneuver my arm off of him and attempt my way out of the bed, a hand reaches over and grabs my arm and he says, “Mommy, don’t let go.”

I am reminded of one of those million times that people say to hold on to these moments because they don’t last. Each time they say that, I always smile, nod in agreement, and move on, because really it needs to speed up so I can finally get some sanity and peace, and maybe just get something done, right? At this moment I finally got it. I finally understood what they meant. My son wanted me next to him, not to let go, and to just be there in that moment. How much longer will he want that from me?

Each day my kids get older, and each day they need me less and less. Yes, that is something you hear everyday, and yes, I agree it gets really old and annoying after the 10th time hearing it, but think about who you hear it from. You hear this wisdom from those moms and dads that no longer have the little ones running around and remember what it is like for the time to fly by and possibly not appreciate all that you had in that moment.

Today is “No Housework Day”. What does this mean? It means take a step away from the day-to-day tasks, the “job” of motherhood, and really enjoy this day. Those who have a job they go to get vacation days or days off in some way. You deserve a day off. Maybe you still need to be a mom and a wife, but the laundry can wait, the dishes will be there tomorrow. Savor the time you have as a mom today and really enjoy just being with your kids or even just taking some time to do something that will take your mind off the day-to-day housework chores. Sit, and don’t let go.

 

Enjoy letting go today,

Amy

 

 

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If The Following Are True, A Doula Is For You

A Doula is a beneficial addition to your birth team if

any of the following things are true about yourself:

 

  • Birthing in a hospital, at a birth center, or at your home
  • Your care provider is a Obstetrician or Midwife
  • Planning a vaginal delivery or a cesarean section
  • Wanting an unmedicated birth or planning to use an epidural
  • Trying for a VBAC, anticipating an induction or completely unsure still
  • Low risk pregnancy or high risk pregnancy
  • Married, in a relationship, single mom, surrogate, or adoptive parent
  • Writing a birth plan or planning to simply go with the flow
  • You’re having just one baby or planning for multiples
  • This is your first, second, third, fourth or fifth baby
  • You desire to breastfeed or use formula to feed your baby
  • Working full time, part time or plan to stay home with your baby
  • Want to feel confident, supported, encouraged, educated, empowered, or validated

We believe there are many variables that determine what is best for you as you birth your baby.

Here at Coastal Doulas of Palm Beach we promise to always provide the exceptional care you need and want during this exciting time.

How ever you plan to birth your baby, we are here to provide the care you need along the way to feel confident in your choices and fully supported from start to finish.

We look foward to meeting you!  

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Imagine a Day

 

Take a minute and imagine having your very own Postpartum Doula for a day.

You are meant to be a mom.  There are often times as a new mom that leave you feeling like you were not meant to do this. It is too hard.  Your body is sore, you need your sleep, and you just don’t know how you are going to get through the day.  Every time you try to use the bathroom, sit down to eat, or rest on the edge of your bed for a moment, the baby starts screaming.  It’s almost like they have a sixth sense or something.  We promise you, you can do it.  What you may need though is the right tools to help things run a bit more smoothly.  Your attitude & perception of this parenting journey can be much more positive by having someone you know and trust walk through the early days and weeks providing guidance, assurance, expertise and support.

 

The postpartum period is often called “the fourth trimester” and having a doula come to help during this time is valuable in more ways than you may realize.  Your postpartum doula is there to help navigate this wonderful experience through all of the highs and lows that come with parenthood.  She is there to help you figure out how you can shower, make meals, keep up with laundry, and take care of yourself, all while also taking care of your beautiful newborn & the rest of your family.  Your doula is there to provide the opportunity for you to catch up on sleep without the guilt of feeling that you’re letting important things fall behind in the process.

 

With a newborn, there’s a good chance you and your baby have been up the majority of the night.  There is also a darn good chance you’ve only had 3 hours total of sleep, and it was probably in 30-45 minute increments.  As you greet the day once again, with little sleep under your belt, you may begin to wonder if you’ll ever be able to get a shower or a much-needed nap.  Stack many sleepless nights like that in a row, and you may find being a new mom extra challenging.  It takes time to adjust while you recover and figure out life’s new routine.  In fact, forget even finding a routine in that state of mind, you’re just wondering if the engorgement in your breasts will ever subside.  Navigating through the normal daily challenges that come in those first weeks & months is what your postpartum doula is there for.

 

So what is it like to have a postpartum doula? Postpartum doulas are not nannies or babysitters. They are there to support YOU as the new mom in all that you need.  Maybe you just need a simple recharge that looks like a nice hot cup of coffee and a warm breakfast.  We know the value of these and many other little resetting experiences.  You deserve to be able to take a breath and have someone nearby who can reassure you that the way you feel  is normal and won’t last forever.  A postpartum doula can arrive in the morning, make you a cup of coffee, & cook breakfast while you nurse or feed your baby.  She then provides you the opportunity to enjoy your breakfast while it’s still hot while she burps & changes your baby’s diaper and then folds the pile of baby laundry that’s been sitting on the couch for the last 3 days.  Sometimes just the ability to take a nice deep breath in the morning is exactly what you need to make the day successful.

 

Your postpartum doula genuinely cares about you and your family.  She listens and offer encouragement through the struggles & tears.  She’s there to celebrate and share in the joys and parenting wins you experience.  She fiercely believes that you are the very best parent for your baby.  She helps answer those non-stop questions that are constantly running through your head.  How do you find the right bottle?  What is the best baby carrier?  How often should my baby eat and sleep?  Never will she judge decisions or choices you choose to make.  She will encourage you to be the mom you want to be as you navigate through and decide on your parenting philosphy.  There is not one right way.  There is your way, and that is what we think is the right way and what we choose to support.

 

 

Here’s just a glimpse into what a day with your postpartum doula can look like:

 

You are exhausted, but you know your doula will arrive soon. When she gets here for her shift she:

  • Greets you with a smile
  • Listens as you tell her all about the night you had
  • Takes the baby so you can go take time to shower and freshen up without worrying about your baby
  • Has a hot cup of coffee and a nice warm breakfast made for you at the table to sit down and enjoy
  • Has cleaned up the dishes, and the dishwasher has been emptied, and your baby is happy
  • Helps with the laundry that has been piling up for days because you just don’t have the time or energy
  • Changes the baby’s diaper when needed so you can continue to rest
  • Helps to prepare a snack for you
  • Lets you take a much-needed nap while taking care of the baby
  • Provides suggestions for you with any breastfeeding or bottle-feeding problems that you’re experiencing
  • She helps you figure out how to use the baby carrier
  • Has prepared you lunch & put dinner in the crockpot while you were snuggling your baby
  • Has most importantly, helped you to be able to TAKE CARE OF YOU!

 

The main job of a doula is to take care of the mom. As moms, we spend so much time caring for others that it’s easy to neglect taking care of ourselves so that we can be the best moms we are called to be.  A doula is there for you in the transitional postpartum period to allow you the support you need to gain confidence in knowing that you are not alone, that you are an amazing mom and that you can do this!

 

 

 

 

 

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The Valley of Wait

Guest Post from Taffney L.

Valley:

Noun – an elongated depression between uplands, hills, or mountains, especially one following the course of a stream.

Noun – any place, period, or situation that is filled with fear, gloom, foreboding, or the like: the valley of despair.

 

When my husband and I decided to grow our family, we were living in the Valley of Wait.  Wait two weeks to see if this is finally our month.  Wait two weeks to try again.  Repeat, repeat, repeat.

This valley was a very lonely and isolating place filled with feargloom, and foreboding.  No matter what we did, we just couldn’t make it up the mountain that was in front of us.  It seemed as though everyone around us climbed that mountain with such ease.  Yet we waited in the valley month after month.

 

Here is our story…

We tried for over two years to get pregnant.  This is not long compared to many, but it was long enough for me to know the pain of infertility.  After about a year of trying, we sought out a specialist and began testing.  We came to find out that we were dealing with male factor infertility.  However, I was technically the “patient” since I was the one to be pregnant.  The doctors prescribed pills and injections to help me release more eggs (more eggs, more chances).  We went through three rounds of Intrauterine Insemination (six inseminations).  All failed.  We were then told we would not get pregnant without In Vitro Fertilization.  Through lots of prayer and discussion, we decided we would not pursue IVF.  This was the hardest thing for me to accept.  Having to come to terms with the fact that we would not be parents was near impossible, but we felt that God did not want us to do anymore treatments.  He had other plans for us.  In December 2015, we found out we were pregnant with our miracle baby.  Our daughter is now 6 months old.

On days when the valley felt especially long, I was reminded that God has called me to be a strong warrior during the times of waiting.  He is my help and my shield.  I could let go of the fear, gloom, and foreboding and rejoice in Him.  I had hope, because I trust in His holy name. (Psalm 33:20-22) I trusted He would use this time of waiting for my good and His glory.

All that waiting sure wasn’t easy, but I look back and give thanks for my time spent in the valley of wait.  Now I can help other women as they navigate their own valley.

Everyone’s cause of infertility is different.  The treatments we do, or don’t do, are different.  Still, we all have the same desire for a child in our hearts.  During our time spent in the valley, I wished over and over I had someone to talk to and to ask questions.  I was thankful no one I knew was going through infertility, but that also made me feel even more isolated.  Now I am using our journey so that no other women feel alone.

 

If you have any questions about the infertility journey, are interested in a local infertility support group, or you just need to say “this is awful!” on the hard days, I would love to connect with you! Please email me at group.taffney@gmail.com.  And always remember that you are not alone in your valley of wait.

 – Taffney

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The Truth About “Eating For Two”

The moment happens, you find out your pregnant, and it is almost immediately that cravings begin to occur. Since you are pregnant you are eating for two, right? As much as we have heard this, and would love this to be the case, it is actually not completely true. During the first two trimesters, our body requires the same amount of energy from food as we normally consume in our non-pregnant state. The “Eating for Two” mindset is easy to embrace because it feels like a great excuse, until we have to pay the cost later. It is certainly one of the main causes for excessive weight gain in pregnancy, and adds to the challenging battle to lose the pregnancy weight because you are shedding a firm mindset as well as fat.

Finding out you are pregnant usually starts with incredible excitement, followed by the first trimester exhaustion. Eating starts to become just something to do, and because we are going to gain weight anyways, why not enjoy it, right? For example, I remember my first; all I wanted was cheeseburgers and French fries. I literally could eat a triple cheeseburger a large fry and still want that again for the next meal. Looking back, I cringe, but that was my reality. Then with the subsequent pregnancies came pizza, Mexican food, and M&M’s by the Costco bag full. Yes, we will have cravings, and yes our taste buds will change – just like our sense of smell. We don’t have to completely deny those cravings, we just need to shed the lie of eating for two. So how can we still be healthy, and take care of our body and the baby growing inside us at the same time?

When we eat too excessively and gain too much weight we are at risk for hypertension, gestational diabetes, and preeclampsia. None of this is to scare you, because you should enjoy life, especially your pregnancy. The reality is that pregnancy can be exhausting and sometimes a good junk food meal is a much needed pick me up, and a little oasis of happiness, right? But, just like when we are not pregnant, too much of a good thing is still too much, and our post-pregnancy self will thank us for not piling on excessive recovery time.

So let’s look again at a basic truth – we need to eat. Eating is what will keep you and your baby healthy through these 40 weeks. But what can you do to stay healthy, and still enjoy this time?

  • Eat healthy meals that are able to balance the tastes you crave with the fuel you need.
  • Stay active – go for a walk if that is all you can do, but keep moving.
  • Watch your food portions.
  • Limit high fat and sugary foods. Please notice the word “limit”. It does not say “don’t eat…” or “stay away from…”. We all need a treat, and a plan that keeps mama bear away from a treat is a plan that will fail.

In your third trimester, especially in the last few weeks of pregnancy, you need to prepare your body for labor. Much preparing is focused on the positions, and stretching, and getting your body physically ready for labor, and that is good. But did you know that before anyone runs a marathon, they eat for the race. This means that labor is just that – labor. It is work. Preparing your meals so that the food you are feeding yourself will give you the energy needed for this marathon. Eating foods that have good carbohydrates will help give you energy. Foods with good healthy fats and proteins will help you to not crash in the middle of the day and keep your energy levels up so that throughout the labor process you have a good amount of strength. Eat during this time to fuel your body.

All of this info is a general guideline to help inform you. There is definitely a way to dial it in more specifically and develop a plan to accomplish for your pregnancy a good balance of joy and discipline. The big thing here is that you enjoy this special time and take care of yourself and that growing baby.

-Amy

 

**Amy Bender is part of our team here at Coastal Doulas and she teaches our classes on nutrition, as well as individual meal planning and prenatal nutrition counseling to help keep your body in optimal function for the amazing race that you are about to run.  If you would like more information on our nutritional support, please contact us here for more information.**

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Options for Swaddling My Baby

To swaddle or not to swaddle is one of the many questions new parents face after their baby is born. The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) says that when done safely and correctly, swaddling can be a beneficial method to help soothe newborns and encourage sleep.  The latest AAP guidelines for swaddling can be found here.

This information is all good and helpful, but choosing what type of swaddle to use can be a feat in and of itself. There are so many options!   Do you use a simple blanket or purchase a pre-made swaddle?  Do you wrap the arms or leave them free?  How do you keep your Houdini baby from escaping?  And what about when it’s time to transition out of a swaddle; then what?  Over the years we’ve found ourselves using many types of swaddles & blankets with out clients.  We’ve narrowed down the options to share our top 4 favorites in hopes of making the decision a little easier for you.

Most, if not all of these swaddles can also be found on Amazon.  Is anyone else as obsessed with Amazon Prime as I am?!?  HELLO CONVENIENCE 🙂

 

1) aden and anais swaddle blankets

If you are one that prefers using a good old fashion blanket instead of a premade swaddle, you should definitely give the muslim blankets from aden and anais a try. Their swaddle blankets are large, lightweight and perfect for swaddling your baby.  They also are multifunctional and can be used to lay your baby on, shade the stroller on a sunny day or double as a cover up while breastfeeding.  There are so many cute, stylish designs to choose from as well, so good luck with that!

 

 

2) Woombie

The Original Woombie especially, is a favorite of ours for its’ simplicity.  Lay your baby in it, snap, zip it up and you’re done.  I would even go as far as to say it’s almost impossible for your baby to wiggle their arms free while in the Woombie.  Anyone who has ever gotten up repeatedly to re-swaddle their baby in the middle of the night will understand the awesomeness of this.  The stretchy knit material allows plenty of room for your baby to naturally move around while also helping them feel snug and secure.  There are also several transitional options available depending on the individual needs of your baby.

 

 

3) Halo Swaddle & Sleepsacks

Whether you’re looking for something for your 2 week old, 2 month old or even 2 year old; Halo has swaddle and sleepsack options for every age.  Their swaddles can be used with both arms secured or with 1 or both arms free.  You also have the ability to keep the top part secure and simply undo the bottom half.  This is especially helpful for the middle-of-the-night diaper changes when you want to keep your baby as drowsy and undisturbed as possible.

 

 

4) Merlin Magic Sleepsuit

The Merlin Magic Sleepsuit is specifically designed to use once your baby is ready to transition out of being swaddled; often around 3 months of age. This transitional suit helps your baby to still feel cozy while minimizing their startle reflex and twitching that happens during sleep that often wakes them up.   The sleepsuit comes in 2 different sizes and is available in cotton and microfleece options.  This transitional suit provides you the parent with an alternative to discontinuing swaddling cold turkey.

HAPPY SLEEPING!

Maybe you have another favorite swaddle that you use.  We would love to hear your favorite and why you love it so much

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Peacefully Birthed

Guest Post from Michelle B.

I was always skeptical of those women you see in the birth videos that say that they had an orgasmic birth or a pain free birth. I had a very difficult first birth, but I didn’t hate women who had an easy birth! I wanted to find out what I could do to improve the experience…I decided that I would not let my difficult first birth experience dictate my next birth. I set out on a journey to empower and educate myself on how I could have a calm, focused birth with our second.

I contacted my doula to ask her advice on how to approach birth in a new way. She mentioned hypnobirth classes would be an excellent option for me.  I looked up the benefits of hypnobirth and decided to enroll in classes after seeing all of these amazing benefits.

I truly enjoyed the Hypnobirth classes, as they gave me time to relax, and connect with my baby. After the 5 week course concluded, I CONTINUED daily to do the relaxation exercises on the Rainbow Relaxation CD and my confidence built that a beautiful birth was within grasp. Hypnobirth allowed me to release any fear I had. The Marie Mongan Hypnobirth Method visualization exercises taught me to fully relax and embrace the birth process.

I worked out at the gym around 10:30 pm then at 2:30 am I felt the strong waves (contractions) signaling my baby girl was making her way into the world. At 3:30 am I went to the kitchen to make my toddler’s lunch and lay out her school stuff. By 4:30 am I needed to head back to my bed room to relax and get in the zone to manage my contractions. It was intense, but by using the positions I had learned in class, and the relaxation exercises I had practiced daily, I was able to get focus on the pressure and NOT the pain. Thanks to my preparation I felt in control. By 6:00 am the baby’s head was out and I was calmly instructing my husband to get ready to catch. At 6:17 am our beautiful baby girl made her way into the world peacefully, calmly, easily without drugs or intervention. Best moment of my life, laying in my bed, in the dark, cuddling my new baby girl.
I had a hard first birth, and I did not use Hypnobirth.  I had a beautiful, peaceful second birth thanks to Hypnobirth, staying in much better physical shape and chiropractic adjustments.  Hypnobirth can be effective for women to relax and embrace the bringing a child into the world. It enables you to have a peaceful state of mind throughout labor and deliver WHEREVER AND HOWEVER YOU CHOOSE TO DELIVER YOUR SWEET BABY.

 

http://www.ihelpmoms.com/blog/how-a-pain-free-birth-is-possible/